Can you remember when your
relationship newly started and both of you can’t get enough of each other? You
always want to be in the company of each other and do things that will make
each other happy. How come things are no
longer that way? Why does it seem like your partner is behaving more withdrawn
and uninterested in the relationship as time goes by? Does it mean that he/she
is tired of the relationship
and is looking for a way to opt out? These might
be some of the questions running through your mind as a result of your
partner’s lackadaisical behavior towards the relationship that it is beginning
to give you cause for concern.
Worry no more, below are some signs
that if observed in your partner consistently for a period of time, you can
confidently tell that they are no more interested in the relationship and are
looking for a way to opt out.
- Constant use of frustrating and annoying words:
From the comments your partner makes
often you can tell whether or not he/she is still interested in the relationship.
If you notice that he/she is very quick to voice their frustration and annoyance
over little things or issues that never warrant such actions, then that is a
clear sign that he/she is getting tired of the relationship. When you observe
such behavior in your partner you need to sit him/her down and talk things over
with them before it gets too late.
Understand that sometimes when our
partners are angry at us they also behave this way; making silly comments at
any little issue in order to get back at us. You need to be observant so you
can tell if your partner is making such annoying and frustrating comments
because you have offended him/her and he/she wants you to acknowledge what
you’ve done and apologize for such behavior or it is because they are really
tired of the relationship.
One way you can know if he/she is making such
frustrating comments because he/she is tired of the relationship is when you
never did anything wrong and he/she is just making such frustrating comments at
little issues that never warrant such comments. That is a clear sign that
he/she has really gotten tired of the relationship and is looking for a way to
opt out.
- Loss or lack of interest in the relationship:
If someone that used to give
attention to things and issues confronting the relationship suddenly starts
giving the ‘I don’t care attitude’ that is a clear sign that he/she is losing
interest in the relationship. If he/she pays no attention to the relationship
and always looks for an excuse not to involve himself/herself in the
relationship, then it’s obvious that he/she has lost interest in the
relationship because when you love something you give such thing your undiluted
attention.
- Flares up unnecessarily:
One of the attributes of love I know
is that it is not easily provoked. If your partner that used to be tolerant and
understanding is now constantly behaving violent at every little issue, that is
a sign that he/she is no more interested in the relationship. Tolerance is very
vital for building great relationship. If he/she is always scolding you and
picking up fight with you for no just cause, you should understand that it is
time both of you sit down and trash things out before things get out of hand.
- Suddenly starts playing the comparison game:
This is one obvious way you can tell
that your partner is losing interest in the relationship. If he/she constantly compare
you with others; mostly people you know you are very much better than. Then you
should know that he/she has lost interest in the relationship.
One problem that occurs when a
partner starts this comparison game is that you can hardly please him/her. No
matter how hard you try to please them, they will always come up with something
to tell you that you’re not measuring up to. At this stage, it will be of
immense benefit to you to sit such partner down and try to talk things through
with him/her so that you can ascertain where such dissatisfaction is coming
from. And if you observe that such complaints and comparisons are becoming
persistent, you had better let him/her go before he/she makes you lose your
sanity.
- Sudden change of behavior:
If he/she suddenly starts behaving
as he/she pleases without considering how such actions affect you and the
relationship, then you should understand that he/she is fed up with the
relationship and is looking for a way to opt out. Relationship is about
fighting for each other’s interest and doing things that will make each other
better. If all he/she does is aimed at hurting you and making you feel
uncomfortable with yourself, then you either call him/her to a discussion and
see if you can sort things out with him/her. And if you observe that you
couldn’t make any head way in making him/her change such hurtful behavior, then
you had better let him/her go before he/she ends up ruining your life the more.
- Unwillingness to invest in the relationship:
Don’t ever be fooled, successful
relationship is an investment and everyone seeking to be in a good relationship
understands that. Most people find it difficult to leave a relationship because
they feel that they have invested too much in it to let it go that easily. You
are more likely to stay and work things out in a relationship you have invested
enough in than a relationship you have invested very little in.
When he/she always comes up with
excuses when asked for support or assistance on things that will be of benefit
to the relationship, then he/she may very likely be fed up with the
relationship. You know someone that will stay and work on the relationship by
what he/she had invested in the relationship. People that always avoid
investing their time, energy, money and themselves in a relationship don’t
think they will be in such relationship for long; that is why they don’t want
to get themselves involved in it.
Should you observe such behavior in
your partner, call him/her to order and know what is preventing him/her from
giving his/her all to the relationship; so you can know how to prepare yourself
should they decide to leave.
- Loss or lack of affection and intimacy:
Romance and intimacy are the oil
that keeps a relationship running smoothly. if whenever you try to show him/her
affection, he/she always withdraws from you without any justifiable reason,
then it is obvious that he she is fed up with the relationship. When he/she is
reluctant to give affection and when you try to give him/her affection, they
withdraw from it, that is an obvious sign that he/she is no more interested in
you and the relationship. It is best you call their attention to such behavior
and if it persists without any justifiable reason, then you had better let
him/her be.
- Uninterested in making future plans:
No one wants to be in a relationship
that has no future prospects. No matter how interesting your relationship may
be for now, everyone would want to ensure that things get better in the future,
thus the need for future plans. If he/she is very much uninterested in making
future plans with you for the relationship, then you should understand that
he/she doesn’t see any future in the relationship because they won’t be in it.
Don’t waste your time on someone
that doesn’t see any future in your relationship because they don’t want to be
in. if you observe such reluctance in your partner to make future plans with
you, you better show him/her the exit door before they take your unawares and
leave you broken and shattered.
You need to understand that it takes
two to tangle. For any relationship to work out, both partners must be willing
to join hands together and make the relationship what they want it to be. if
you observe consistently most of these signs in your partner and you try to
work things out with him/her and nothing seems to change, then you should
understand that such partner is no longer interested in the relationship and is
only waiting for a better opportunity to show up for him/her to take their
leave.
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